Kelly
White - Editor In Chief
If you’re not prepared to have some of your cherished assumptions
about loving relationships
and sensuality and
intimacy and sex
challenged – there’s no purpose to read the book - other
than to perhaps understand what your partner may be thinking –
longing for – or quietly despairing about.
It’s amazing
– even after two or three or more ‘Un-Couplings’
– individuals simply refuse to confront the real issues that
are causing the ‘Un-Couplings’. They just keep repeating
the same behaviors - expecting different results.
Why?
The premises of ‘The Romantic Ideal’ have been embedded
in us since early childhood – reinforced and ‘sold’
to us daily by master marketers throughout our teen and adult years.
We keep buying – and trashing our goals of a stable long-term
fulfilling relationship–and frequently our families.
You can agree
or disagree with some – or all - of the writings
– but you will never forget that you read the thoughts/feelings
as you think about your own relationships – past – present
- future.
What
readers have said
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- I got copies for my ex-husbands
- Everybody knows our current relationship
system is a sham. So-called Relationship ‘Rules’
are no longer followed. This writings in this book
just make the sham easier to understand and follow.
- Wish we both had read this before
the divorce
- Who gave these people the right to question
our Society’s norms – how we organize our families
- Do we still burn books?
This is a candidate.
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Comments |
- In the world of relationships, The
Relationships Book – Sensuality/Intimacy/Sex
is akin to the ancient tale of the ‘Emperor Who
Wore No Clothes’. Our culture and institutions
train us to pledge allegiance to the concept of
the Exclusive Soul Mate – the One
and Only in a Lifetime.
But in our current reality, we have serial intimacies, serial
marriages, blatant or clandestine promiscuity - cheating,
intermittent months or years of unconnected aloneness…
millions of children without stable, concerned, and responsible
multi-adults in their daily lives.
If some or much of this Diaspora of families is being caused
by the hypocritical myths of life-long exclusive sexual
relationships, maybe it’s time for our religious and
social institutions to call for a ‘Change of the Emperor’s
Robe’. How could one of life’s beautiful gifts
– sensuality - cause so much confusion, pain, anger
and heart break. It’s crazy. Rev.
C. S. Seattle
- Who cares about sex? In our family we’ve
almost stopped doing it. And things are just fine without
it. When I hear the folks at the office in their messes
– I just laugh. P. M. Washington
DC
- This is simply trash! Accepting some of these
ideas would simply destroy the very fabric of any society
– it’s families. If published thoughts
can be obscene – then this ought to be banned from
sale – even on the Internet. Just burn them. This
material is crazy. Rev. P. W. Omaha
Area
- Looking back at my college years, what I
mostly remember are my parents. Something had been bothering
them for several years. It was obvious in their behaviors.
They acted differently (my brother and I later found out
the cause was sex.) First my father started a secret affair
that didn’t remain a secret very long. Then my mother
started an affair in retaliation. Then they got divorced.
Pretty crazy. The property settlement fights were hysterically
funny – just dumb. Even dumber, I may be restarting
the cycle now with my partner. T.
M. Chicago
- So many people assume that individuals that
cheat on their partners don’t love them any more.
But that’s not accurate. I cheat frequently –
and still love my partner, kids and family. Loving them
is the reason I cheat – if I didn’t
have affairs I would go brain dead - have to quit this partner
and have to start looking for a new partner and family.
B.B London Area
- Each of Mankind was intended to have ONE
sexual partner in a lifetime. Period. Simple. End of the
story. This kind of insane questioning is what’s causing
all the divorces and grief. P. M. Asheville
- If each individual – man and
woman – could have more than one intimate partner
– openly and candidly – then maybe we wouldn’t
have so many divorces and broken families. E.B.
New Hampshire
- I haven’t had any sexual activities
or intimate relationships since my last divorce. Mean who
needs it anyway. I’m sure there are lots of folks
just like me all over. L.A. LA
- Does anyone ever stop and think how really
crazy our ideas, attitudes and assumptions are about sexuality.
Some people kill each other - thrash their kid’s lives
- over touching some small body-parts. Insane. M.K.
Dallas
- We’ve spent more than a century trying
to bring equality to more than half the citizens of the
world – it’s females. Females need to be part
of Equalitarian Sensual Relationships. Let’s get rid
of our ‘Partner Ownership’ mindset and practices
- let each individual seek their own level of enjoyable
sensuality, even with added long-term lovers. It’s
crazy to keep shattering our families and children’s
lives over something as simple as typical imbalances in
sexual interest levels between partners. Let highs be with
highs – lows with lows. If it weren’t for our
crazy training and hypocrisies –
it wouldn’t be that complicated. M. D. Houston Area
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About
The Five Love Organizations
- Sensual Hermitage -
- Promiscuity -
- Exclusive Couples -
- Swinging -
- Intimate Best Friends -
What are
they? Why do people live in them? Why do people leave one
for another. Which one best fits your future... and your children’s
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| Over
ten years in the making.
This 278 pages of writings about
individuals living in one of the Love Organizations will boggle
your mind – may make you cry or angry. They may make
you sad with the memories – or provide hopes for your
future.
But you will never
forget you read them as you think/feel through your relationships.
| Two
New Sections Added for this 2008 Web Edition |
What
is sensuality
and sex?
What’s their real purpose in a
long-term relationship? Where does ‘sexy’
and ‘lust’ come from? Are they good things
– can they disappear? Just the questions may startle
you. |
Read
the new Section about the
Brain
Chemicals of
Attraction – Lust – Bonding
Tired of falling in and out of love? Learn more about
why it happens. If you think your heart made
you fall in love – think again. It’s brain
chemicals starting (and stopping).
Helps to understand why there are serial relationships.
Learn what’s going on in your partner’s
body – and your own.
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